How To Know When To Give Up On A Goal Or Project
Some of us spend so much time trying to accomplish our goals, we overlook contemplating when to give up on them. Frankly, there are goals you’ve set for yourself that may no longer be beneficial.
To help you determine when to give up on a goal, I’ll focus on the emotional side of your decision making.
Specifically, I recommend contemplating the questions and statements below. Upon reflection, you may come to understand that it’s time to give up on your goal.
Interestingly, as a professional business coach, I spend roughly the same amount of time helping clients accomplish goals as I do helping them determine when to give up on some.
To Determine When to Give Up on a Goal or Project, Contemplate the Following:
— Did your goal or project originate as a distraction in order to avoid completing another goal or project?
— Has your viewpoint changed? Specifically, you now have a broader perspective than when you first set your goal, i.e., you see your original decisions differently today.
— Initially unaware, you’ve come to realize you’ve been pursuing another person’s goal.
You’ve repeatedly encouraged others to complete your same goal, yet have made no progress yourself.
— For some time, you’ve pretended to like the idea of your goal. However, you’ve come to realize you’ve never bought into the goal from day one.
— Your priorities have changed. For example, a loved one has become very ill. You realize your goal doesn’t compare to wanting to care for your loved one.
— You see yourself differently. You’ve come to accept a quality within yourself you’ve denied for years. Your goal was part of this denial.
— Unknowingly, you’ve been hurting others while pursing your goal, e.g., missing dinners with family or canceling lunches last minute with friends.
— Defensiveness is your first reaction when others ask about your goal or project.
— Your goal is tied to an old habit you’ve since broken.
To Continue or Not Continue, Try This Quick Exercise:
If you can’t decide whether to give up on a goal, try contradicting your thought process and beliefs.
Suppose you’re a consultant, and a year ago you set a goal to open an office outside of your current home-office setup. At the time, you believed you could make more money if clients could visit you outside of your home. That, by having commercial office space, you’d be able to charge more and attract better paying clients.
However, you’ve made no progress in completing your goal. When you’ve come upon potential office space, it’s never quite right for whatever reason.
Now contradict your beliefs, e.g., I can charge whatever I want no matter where I’m located, phone calls are more convenient for my clients than traveling to my office, etc.
Now ask yourself how you feel after your contradictions. If you feel conflicted, this is often a sign that your beliefs have changed, i.e., it’s time to update your goals.
At any moment, you can simply change your mind. For whatever reason, if you have a goal and don’t want to pursue it any longer, I encourage you to take that leap and move onto another goal or project. Or simply do nothing for a while. Instead, clear your mind and thought process.
I’m a huge advocate of giving up on goals or updating them to reflect your current feelings, expectations, values and situation. There is nothing wrong with giving up on a goal that no longer matches your original intentions or a broadened perspective.
Life moves quickly. I encourage you to free yourself from goals that no longer serve you well.
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Thanks for sharing.